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Do Feelings Matter?

Posted: December 1, 2014 in Older Posts

Have you ever noticed how we greet each other? We usually ask something along the lines of, “How’s it going?” or “How are you?” We then respond with something that conveys how we are feeling. Why is that? Why is it that pretty much everything we say or do is based on how we feel at the time?

Even our choices are generally based on how we feel. For example we feel tired so we stay home from church or we feel a cold coming on so we stay home from work. We don’t feel like going shopping, we feel sore from working in the lawn, we feel sad, angry, frustrated, and on it goes. More often than not, feelings control the choices we make.

Often times we make choices that we know are wrong or at best questionable, but it’s how we feel at the time. In those instances we may even justify our actions in order to make us feel better about our choices. For example, “It’s supposed to be really cold today and maybe even snow. I think I’ll stay in today.” Or, “It’s only a few drinks. I can drive myself home.” Or maybe, “I know that video that someone emailed me was inappropriate, but it was kind of funny.”

You can easily make your own list of choices based on feelings. We all make them every single day. Unfortunately we often make choices and entertain thoughts and actions that are not in line with what God would have us do and yet we continue to make them.

Learning to live our lives based on God’s will rather than our feelings is no small task. Everywhere we turn we are confronted with feelings. We not only have our own feelings to contend with, but everyone we come in contact with has their own set of feelings and attitudes. There may even be a sense, or a feeling, that one cannot possibly live without being directed by feelings and emotions.

I believe to a large extent we base our choices on how we feel because we don’t know how to believe God. We have all been guilty of letting our feelings guide our actions, but it can be different. It is a process and it will not happen overnight, but as we commit to spend time in God’s Word and listen to what He is saying to us, things will begin to change.

Romans 12:2 (CEV) says, “Don’t be like the people of this world, but let God change the way you think. Then you will know how to do everything that is good and pleasing to him.”

Other translations tell us to be transformed by renewing our minds and the way to do that is by getting into the Word. You will still have feelings, but there will come a point where you begin to understand that feelings are not what defines you. His Word defines you and gives life a whole new perspective. Feelings don’t have to control you, but as with everything else in life, it starts with a choice.

Deuteronomy 30:19 says, “This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.”

The choice to begin lies with you. Are you ready? Contact us at and let us show you how to be who God says you are regardless of how you feel.